The Reality of Trying to Bring Daily Meditation into Everyday Life...
You've experienced the beauty and benefit of meditation. It has helped you bring peace, balance, and calm to your life unlike anything ever has before. You've come to deeply appreciate the practice of mindfulness meditation and the way it allows you to be more present to your life as a whole.
When you practice, you have a sense of spaciousness that allows you to more easily let go and not take things so personally. You also have greater patience with your family and a sense of inner stability and balance that allows you to better handle the challenges of everyday life.
However, that's when you practice. Specifically, when you practice consistently.
The reality is, you find it extremely difficult to stick to a consistent meditation practice. Finding the time to practice daily often seems impossible and, on top of that, procrastination kicks in and your motivation to practice wanes as a result.
Imagine if you could stick to a consistent daily meditation practice...
To always be able to tap into the greater sense of peace and balance that a consistent meditation practice brings you, to bring a sense of calm and relieve stress, and to live more present to each moment.
To have more patience with your family and a sense of spaciousness to better handle everyday challenges and to overall live truer to yourself in every sense of the word.
However, being able to stick to a consistent daily meditation practice amid the challenges of everyday life isn't just a fantasy...
The Road to Peace
I'm Matt Valentine, the creator of Buddhaimonia.com and the Meditation for Everyday Life online course.
Years ago, I was introduced to the practice of mindfulness meditation through a book called The Miracle of Mindfulness. The book was written by the man I'd come to call my foremost teacher in the practice of meditation, Zen Vietnamese monk and peace activist Thich Nhat Hanh. Nhat Hanh introduced me to the power and beauty of meditation practice and my life has never been the same since.
However, despite the beauty I had experienced in my practice, when I first started my own meditation practice I'd go days, even a full week or longer, without remembering to stop for even a moment. Time and time again, I just couldn't seem to find (or make) the time and motivation to practice, even though I knew how good it was for me.
I spent years wondering why I struggled to stick to a consistent meditation practice.
It was only later that I realized there was more to practicing consistently than just learning how to meditate. I had to put into place certain key ingredients so that I could overcome the challenges of everyday life.
Once I figured out I needed to overcome these challenges (and what the exact challenges were), everything changed.
I realized there are only a few things that actually matter when creating a consistent daily meditation practice. The first one was this:
You can't just learn to meditate, that's not enough. Combating the challenges of everyday life such as the various responsibilities of work, family, and other, stopping the habitual rushing around, overexerting, and distraction, and working through key psychological barriers like the feeling that we need to be productive and that we're not worthy of taking the time for ourselves is altogether necessary.
Although I had just discovered I needed to overcome the challenges of everyday life that keep us from sticking to a consistent daily meditation practice, this knowledge wasn’t enough.
I had to figure out HOW to do it. How could I overcome these many everyday challenges?
I decided to try a few things. I tried out meditation apps with guided practices. I tried courses in meditation. I also spoke directly with other meditation practitioners to find out what worked and what didn’t work for them.
Again and again, I encountered the same concepts. Many of the various programs that I and others experienced did well to teach the practice and even offered guidance on challenges within the practice itself, but they offered little to no advice on how to actually establish the practice as a consistent daily habit.
It was then that I decided I had to find an answer to this challenge myself. How do I overcome these various challenges, which often are rooted in deep-seated conditioning and psychological barriers?
I studied every book, every notable piece of research, and even tapped into my own experience working to establish positive habits such as becoming an early riser and writing 1,000+ words daily to produce a growing blog and three books in less than two years.
Once I found out how to work through these various challenges, all the struggle and confusion as to why I couldn’t find the time and stick to a consistent meditation practice became crystal clear.
I knew what was stopping me and I had found out how to work through it. Not only then, but to keep it from becoming an issue in the future as well.
Once I worked through these challenges, all the struggle and confusion as to why I couldn’t find the time and stick to a consistent meditation practice became crystal clear.
I now have a strong and consistent daily meditation practice. Finding the time to practice is no longer an issue. Sticking to the practice is no longer an issue.
I meditate in the morning, afternoon, at night and live more mindfully throughout my daily activities and have brought a great sense of peace, balance, and calm to my life as a whole and am able to live more fully in each moment. I have more patience with my family and am able to let go of things more easily.
But the best part is, I now have a strong sense of spaciousness. I no longer feel like I'm living in a box where everything that happens to me becomes my life for that moment and is intensely personal. I have a sense of spaciousness and perspective that allows me to step back and view things more clearly and in a balanced way.
And it's not just me, I've helped dozens of people personally through 1-on-1 work and hundreds through my teaching online at Buddhaimonia.com.
These are people with families, work, and typical everyday responsibilities and from all different walks of life. And they’ve seen amazing and practical results.
To date, Buddhaimonia has received over one million visitors.
As a result of that, nearly every day I receive emails from people all over the world having applied specific techniques I've spoken about or advised them on to establish a stronger and more consistent meditation practice and work through the common challenges of everyday life.
7 Challenges Keeping You from a Consistent Daily Meditation Practice
Most of us believe we can't meditate, or if we've got the practice down we can't stick to a consistent daily meditation practice, for one reason or another. The reason why differs from person to person:
1. "I don't know how to meditate / I don't know if I'm doing it right."
This is a common worry in the beginning, especially because many of us are now learning the practice online in our free time without personal instruction.
However, there are actually very simple ways to know you're doing the practice and doing it right.
2. "I can't meditate / I'm not cut out for meditation."
This is actually a hugely common misconception that most people think in the beginning of their practice (actually, this keeps most people from ever learning the practice to begin with). I felt the same way and thought I was "different" from everyone else who could meditate or that I just wasn't cut out for it. That turned out to be false.
A lot of people sit down once or twice, have a hard time with the monkey mind, and think they're just not cut out for meditation. However, this is what the practice is like for everyone in the beginning.
If you know how to create and stick to a consistent daily practice, in a short period of time you'll get passed this initially tough phase and start finding yourself able to sit often in deep meditation with ease.
3. "I can't quiet the monkey mind / I have a problem focusing."
Many have difficulty quieting the monkey mind in the beginning. Either that or they just find it hard to concentrate or focus in the beginning.
In the beginning, the monkey mind can seem like an insurmountable challenge. However, with the right techniques in practice and sticking to a consistent practice you'll be able to quiet the monkey mind and improve your concentration.
It's meditation that allows us to calm the monkey mind. Your mind isn't permanently busy and you can calm it. That's the power of meditation (done the right way).
4. "I can’t find (or make) the time to meditate."
Many people find it hard to find, or make, the time to meditate. Even after finding out they can meditate for just a few minutes each day, they still seem to find it impossible to find the time to practice. This is because it's the psychological barriers and excuses behind the effort to meditate that are the cause of it.
These psychological barriers are often difficult to detect. However, there are smart strategies for reducing overwhelm and finding more time for yourself to fully tackle this common problem. More on that in a bit...
5. "I don't have the time / I'm too busy."
This one is slightly different than the last and it's primarily about a lie we often tell ourselves.
Time and time again I hear people say, "I don't have the time", or, "I'm too busy", when in reality they do have the time and they're just choosing to stay in their comfort zone (which means they remain overwhelmed, stressed out, and unhappy).
While they may be busy, and most of us truly are, no one is too busy that they can't find 5-15 minutes to meditate daily (and that's all it takes, according scientific research).
If the busiest people in the world, such as:
- Arianna Huffington (founder and Chief Editor of the Huffington Post)
- And Mario Batali (world-renowned Chef, TV personality, and owner of 28 restaurants)
With schedules unimaginably busy, even compared to you and I, can find the time to meditate for 20, 30, 40+ minutes a day...
...you can too.
6. "I know how good meditation is for me, but I often lack the motivation to actually do it."
In everyday life, motivation wavers constantly. Some days you feel energized and ready to practice, other days you feel tired and overwhelmed.
That's how it is with motivation, it either controls you or you control it. Ultimately, you need to do why you do what you do in a very clear way and know how to compel yourself to take action.
The good news is there are effective strategies for tapping into high levels of motivation any time of the day to stick to a consistent practice, which I'll show you how to utilize.
7. "I’ve practiced before, I've even had periods of consistent practice only to drop off once again. I find it hard to stick to it."
This was the major challenge of my own practice years ago and something most people struggle with. To make it worse, the courses, programs, apps, and other meditation resources that exist out there don't help you stick to a consistent practice.
That's why I decided to create Meditation for Everyday Life. The course will show you what's stopping you on various levels and teach you how to stick to a consistent meditation practice with simple, clear, and straightforward lessons and material with just a few hours of investment each week.
The Complete Meditation Course for Busy People
"Meditate … do not delay, lest you later regret it.”
- The Buddha
As I mentioned a moment ago, other meditation programs out there do a great job teaching you the practice, but they do little to nothing to help you stick to a consistent practice. And the reality is, most of us live busy lives with work, family, and other responsibilities that can make it very difficult to stick to a consistent meditation practice.
You've likely experienced the beauty of meditation practice already. You've experienced the peace and balance that meditation practice brings you, the greater patience with yourself and your family, and the sense of spaciousness that allows you more easily handle the challenges of daily life.
However, if you can't stick to a consistent practice, you won't be able to take full advantage of those benefits. Your practice will continue to be hit or miss, sometimes being consistent during a rare moment of motivation, but for the most part being very inconsistent and unable to cultivate the true power of meditation practice.
The ancient practice of mindfulness meditation, passed down from the Buddha over 2,500 years ago, is a beautiful and nourishing practice that makes a significant change in the quality of our day-to-day life. Now, more than ever, the practice of meditation is for more than just monks living in monasteries.
However, the practices which have been taught over the centuries need to be updated for the modern and fast-paced world we live in.
Modern teaching needs to account for the habitual busyness and focus on productivity that's been conditioned into us for years, the myriad distractions and mental dispersion that are a staple of modern life, and key psychological barriers that keep us making excuses for why we can't practice.
Without accounting for these barriers to practice, everyday people like you and I will have little chance of creating and sticking to a consistent meditation practice.
That's why I created Meditation for Everyday Life, the online training program designed to show you step-by-step in a simple, clear, and straightforward way how to find the time to stick to consistent daily mindfulness meditation practice.
The course not only teaches you the practice simply and clearly so that there's no confusion, it shows you how to work through the many challenges to practice we face in daily life.
Module 1: Mindfulness Meditation Made Simple
In Module 1, you’ll learn…
- How to meditate with simple, clear, and straightforward instruction.
- What meditation practice to start with among the many (when it seems like you have 50 to choose from).
- The "I am" Trick: How to know you're practicing correctly with this simple trick.
- What is the difference between mindfulness and meditation? And why does it matter?
- How to deal with the monkey mind: Improving focus & concentration and what to do with our overactive monkey mind.
- Critical mistakes to avoid in your meditation practice.
- My 10 best tips for improving your meditation practice.
Module 2: Establishing an Unshakeable Meditation Practice
In Module 2, you’ll learn…
- How to create your meditation space in a way that not only nourishes your practice but makes it more consistent as well.
- The Why I Meditate Technique and the power of intention in making the time for a consistent meditation practice.
- How to making your meditation time and why it's critical to the mental game of motivating yourself to practice.
- Why you need to make meditation a lifestyle, not a habit (and what the difference is).
- ...and introducing The 66-Day Meditation Challenge, designed to track your progress, instill motivation, and develop meditation into a daily habit utilizing the latest science in habit creation.
Module 3: Making Friends with Yourself and Working Through Psychological Barriers
In Module 3, you’ll learn…
- How to make friends with yourself with mindfulness practice to work through the psychological barriers that keep us from taking action.
- Why a mindful journal is a super useful technique for making friends with yourself (and how to use it)
- The straight truth about meditation practice in daily life
- Why understanding emotional resistance is key in sticking to a consistent meditation practice
- How to reduce overwhelm and minimize mental dispersion
- The science behind why you CAN stop (and how to do it)
Module 4: Living with Mindfulness and Diminishing Autopilot
In Module 4, you’ll learn…
- How to use mindfulness to "break" the habit of running on autopilot during common daily activities (and why that helps us develop a more consistent meditation practice)
- The One Thing, One Mind, One Moment Principle: A simple principle that will help you live more mindfully in your daily life.
- How to come in touch with your body with mindfulness practice and how to use that to reverse the habit of rushing and take better care of yourself.
- Why setting reminders (automating practice) is a powerful way to combat distraction and busyness.
- How to establish a "Focus Practice" that integrates meditation into your daily activities and emphasizes your daily practice.
- How to bring the practice of mindfulness meditation into your daily activities and further support your regular meditation practice.
The Community Aspect of Meditation for Everyday Life
Meditation for Everyday Life isn't only a place for teaching and instruction on how to learn mindfulness meditation and develop it into a consistent daily practice, it's a brand new community for mindfulness meditation practitioners intent on becoming a place where practitioners can come for support, guidance, and encouragement in their meditation practice.
- Live online gatherings with a short talk, community discussion for encouragement and support, and Q&A to make sure you're on the right track.
- Private Facebook Group for accountability and further encouragement and support (future release).
- Group meditation challenges to help you track your progress, build momentum, and spur the community to take action.
- Special Bonus: 45-minute 1-on-1 Skype/phone session with Matt.
1. Guided Meditations for Everyday Life Guided Meditation Album
Guided Meditations for Everyday Life guided meditation album includes guided practices for each meditation practice covered in Meditation for Everyday Life.
- Mindful Check-in
- Mindfulness of Strong Emotions
- 60-Second Mindful Breathing Practice
- Just Being
- All Major Everyday Mindfulness Practices
- And more...
2. How to Become a Morning Meditator eBook
In How to Become a Morning Meditator, you'll learn:
- My best tips for becoming an early riser.
- A step-by-step morning routine for becoming an early riser (the most effective I've found in my 6 years being an early riser.
- How to get a good nights sleep, waking early, rested, and energized.
- How to design the perfect morning routine around your morning meditation practice.
- Keys to a successful morning meditation practice.
3. How to Find Your Sangha or Physical Practice Community Instruction Video
In the How to Find Your Sangha or Physical Practice Community, you'll learn:
- Where and how to find a physical practice center or monastery (depending on your interests).
- Discover multiple practice center directories which you can use to quickly and easily find local communities.
- How to create your own meditation gatherings or community in your area.
Get Meditation for Everyday Life Today
When you enroll in Meditation for Everyday Life today, you'll get:
- Course Material (Modules 1-4)- Modules 1-4, all 16 lessons included in video (.mp4), audio (.mp3), and text (.pdf) formats. Worksheets and additional material included.
- Monthly Live Online Gatherings- Live community gatherings where the community will get together for encouragement and motivation and ask questions.
- The 66-Day Meditation Challenge- Join the 66-day community meditation challenge. Track your practice progress with official meditation challenge worksheets, get encouragement, motivation, and accountability to practice, and establish a strong and consistent daily meditation practice.
- Private Facebook Group- A place for the Meditation for Everyday Life community to come together for support, guidance, and accountability, helping you take your practice further. Planned for a future release.
- Bonus 1: Guided Meditations for Everyday Life- 16 guided meditation tracks to help guide you through every applicable practice in the course (and many more).
- Bonus 2: How to Become a Morning Meditator eBook- My quintessential guide on rising early and establishing a morning meditation practice.
- Bonus 3: How to Find Your Sangha or Physical Practice Community Instruction Video- Learn how to find a physical practice community in your area, discover multiple directories for quickly and easily find groups in your area, and learn how to grow your own practice community.
- Special Bonus 4: 45-Minute 1-on-1 Session with Matt- 45-Minute Live Skype/Phone session with Matt where you'll talk about improving your practice, get feedback, and ask questions.
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Frequently Asked Questions
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